13 Reasons Why Star Tommy Dorfman Who Came Out as Transgender in 2021 is Married Once Again

13 Reasons Why actress Tommy Dorfman married her best friend and partner Elise in secret!

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  • Tommy Dorfman is an iconic actress known for portraying the role of Ryan Shaver in the iconic Netflix series 13 Reasons Why.
  • Coming out as a transgender back in 2021, Dorfman went through a divorce but emerged stronger than before.
  • In recent news, the actress revealed that she married her best friend and partner Elise in secret and did not tell anyone until yesterday!
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Tommy Dorfman found worldwide fame and love for portraying the role of Ryan Shaver in the iconic Netflix series 13 Reasons Why. Being an iconic actress who portrayed her role brilliantly, Dorfman received the spotlight for quite a while.


Coming out as a transgender back in 2021, Dorfman has found herself (as she prefers to go by she/her) surrounded by controversy again. Getting secretly married to her best friend Elise, the actress talked about their whirlwind romance and how they eloped together!

Tommy Dorfman as Ryan Shaver
Tommy Dorfman as Ryan Shaver in a still from 13 Reasons Why

13 Reasons Why Star Tommy Dorfman Secretly Married Her Best Friend!

It was 2021 when Dorfman sat in an interview with TIME and came out as a transgender. Welcoming the change, the world appreciated Dorfman’s coming out as a woman, and the actress continued to spend her days in private.

Tommy Dorfman in Fracture (2021)
Tommy Dorfman in a still from the trailer for Fracture (2021)

In an Instagram post, Tommy Dorfman revealed that she had secretly married her best friend and partner Elise in the fall of 2023! Showcasing a photo of their dresses and Dorfman and Elise holding hands, the actress revealed that they eloped together and did not tell anyone except their photographer who photographed them at the end of 2023.


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However, the case doesn’t end there. Dorfman revealed that she (and her partner Elise) bought their own dresses. “A few weeks ago we decided to say let’s celebrate this our way, so we we something for @voguemagazine and @vogueweddings because we love each other and the world should know!!!! ok???!” the caption further continued.

This isn’t the first time that Tommy Dorfman has found herself getting married. Before Elise, Dorfman was married to Peter Zurkuhlen but the pair had a divorce in 2021. Well, the tale of romance continued between Dorfman and Elise, and here’s how the lovers found themselves on the road to marriage.


How Tommy Dorfman Married Her Partner Elise!

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Tommy Dorfman in a still from 13 Reasons Why

As per her interview with Vogue, Dorfman and her spouse Elise met on Hinge. Talking about their whirlwind romance, the tale is indeed a meet-cute tale of lovers who met via online dating.

“The first few months of our relationship set the tone for how we would eventually get married. We got engaged two months into dating. To our credit, we waited a full 12 months before moving in together, so you can’t say we U-Hauled”

Dorfman further continued,

“That’s the thing about falling in love though; your responsibility barometer isn’t always where it should be. Love, for us, required that nauseating combination of naivete, delusion, and fate.”

Finding happiness and comfort in the arms of Elise, we wish Tommy Dorfman all the luck for her future. On the professional side of things, Dorfman directed the 2024 film I Wish You All The Best which received quite good ratings


Dorfman’s iconic performance can be seen in 13 Reasons Why which is available to stream on Netflix in the U.S.

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