Some complex issues need extra sensitivity and a deeper understanding to successfully adapt theatrically. Domestic violence is one such topic that requires thoughtful representation on screen. Two recent examples, the 2024 film It Ends With Us and the TV series Big Little Lies, highlight the challenges of accurately portraying this issue.
Blake Lively’s film was criticized for being marketed as a rom-com, downplaying its central theme of domestic violence. Fans felt misled, and it seemed like the actress was unwilling to discuss the core message of her movie. On the other hand, Nicole Kidman’s nuanced portrayal and her statement about playing a domestic abuse survivor won fan’s hearts.
A tale of two approaches: Nicole Kidman’s confession
Fans have been in an uproar due to the controversy surrounding Blake Lively starrer, It Ends With Us. Internal rifts aside, the fact that the actress herself does not seem to discuss the central messaging of the film has people baffled. The movie’s core theme of domestic violence was lost amidst the confusion.
In contrast, Nicole Kidman‘s portrayal of the same issue in Big Little Lies was widely praised. She approached the role of a domestic abuse survivor with sensitivity and understanding to ensure an authentic representation. In an interview with Lofficiel (as per Lofficielusa) Kidman talked at length about her role.
I had so much more understanding and connection with people that have been through that [domestic abuse].
The Boy Erased actress stated she knew movies could have a positive impact on society, so her portrayal of a DV survivor had to be truthful but impactful. After playing the role of Celeste, she felt truly connected to the issue and its real-life survivors.
The difference between the two actresses lies in the approach and dedication they took. Kidman embraced the complexity of the theme and used her platform to raise awareness for the same. While Lively seemed to shy away from the topic, and missed the chance to make a meaningful impact.
Nicole Kidman’s preparation and research
The Lion lead’s performance in HBO’s Big Little Lies is a masterclass in nuanced and empathetic acting. Her portrayal of Celeste Wright, a domestic abuse survivor, was both heart-wrenching and impactful. Kidman’s preparation for the role was meticulous, involving thorough research.
In an interview with Variety, the actress spoke about the tons of research that went into her preparation for the role of Celeste. The actress even met real-life DV survivors to get a better understanding of their psyche.
I’ve done a lot of work with victims of domestic violence, and also victims of war crimes. That’s been my work for well over a decade with U.N. women.
We wanted it to be a proper study for this couple and how toxic this relationship is. How much they want each other and they want the family to stay together and that they’re in this dance of death, really.
Her performance highlights not only the toxicity of such a relationship but also the resilience and strength of survivors. As her character slowly started leaving the shackles of abuse, the actress too was deeply affected.
I’d go home at night and sit in the bath and cry. It really seeped into my psyche in a way. It’s a strange place to exist as an actress. I remember lying on the floor on the bathroom, really beaten up a lot, and just crying.
Kidman did give her all to portray a grounded and realistic performance as Celeste, which led to her receiving numerous accolades. She was not only the show’s executive producer but also the lead, beautifully balancing two very heavy roles. Big Little Lies is currently available to watch on Max.
